[cocoandjane]

Hello to all!
Welcome to the newbies!

It's Jane, here...as in cocoandjane........
I am among the older crowd....June 1st~ I turned 55!!
Don't know how that happened!

My husband is 61 and is a workaholic!
I don't expect him to ever retire.
If he does, I will sling a hammock in the shed
and move out there! Ha!
Not really, but he is wired so totally different
than I am....I will have to give him projects if he does retire...
to keep the antsy-ness away....it drives me nuts.
The air fills with fritzy anxiety, :shock:
if he doesn't have enough work to do!!
Giving him any "work" will do though,
~laundry, (we wear clothes he has shrunk and dyed the wrong color :evil: )
....weed-eating, (never mind the cypress vine, or monkey grass he manages to chop off in the process :evil: )
cleaning the garage...but don't expect to ever find anything again!!!!
Besides the honey-doos, he will have to find his own jobs to work on, too.
Ha! :?
He is such a dear and I have loved him for 33 years!! :lol: :lol:
Geesh! :wink:

I have two step-children:
Cristy - 43 yrs. old...always lived with her mom in NC.
She has 2 boys, 20+24.
My sons are uncles to my step-grandsons who are older than they are.....is there math involved here?

Bryan - 37 yrs. old...lived with us from age 7-17.
(He moved out on his own,
or nearly on his own...he knew everything at such a young age...
if you get my drift.)
He is married now and has a son; 6 1/2 yrs. old
....a very, very bright boy.
Scary bright! :shock:

Sarah Jane was born in 1979
and passed away in "84
at 5 yrs old. Just after her first birthday
she was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer....
She would be 28~ this October.
So~ it was sort of like having one family
with Bryan and Sarah and then~
she was gone and Bryan moved out 5 years later~
when these next two boys were very small.

Robby - 21 yrs. old~slowly finishing college and working....
Philip - 18 yrs old.....is finishing his last year of high school finally.
He now knows everything, too!! ( :roll: )
YIPPEE!!
We homeschooled these last two for 1 thru 12 grades
and this is the final year!!
I started Sarah when she was 3...she was so easy!
I learned the hard way the boys weren't ready as early
as she was, so I ended up holding them back...
then they were fairly easy.

We have had 2 Irish Setters, and two litters of setter pups, a German Shepherd,
a Standard Schnauzer, a Sheltie, 2 cats,
(a lizard, three snakes, a turtle, one hamster,
only because they were good science projects!! )
and now a simply wonderful
F1B CHOCOLATE LABRADOODLE named, Coco.
She is such a joy and as it says in my profile...
she is now who I prefer to "teach" and train ~as opposed to humans.
No papers to grade !!

[By the way, grammar, punctuation, spelling, sentence structure, etc.
is all thrown by the way-side when typing on this forum....Sorry.
No grading, please!! :roll: ]

Last Friday, we visited with a breeder in northeast Texas
who has a lovely place for her operation!
It was fun to drive out and meet her....it is so green in the countryside for the end of August in Texas! It is unbelievable!!

We are considering becoming a guardian home for her. :shock:
She has beautiful dogs and it would get our feet wet,
so that we could learn the business with her as a mentor
and have a few litters of our own one day.

Maybe that would be the retirement job
Steve could be busy with....
He is absolutely in love with Coco and
is eager to have another doodle for her to play with.
Me, too!!
Funny how life changes people....
we have nearly divorced over dog issues in the past...
He was the meany!! Not anymore!!

Good to read about all of you in this section and get to know you a little better!
....sorry to be so long-winded, I always am....
much to my boy's chagrin. :?
Coco doesn't mind, though!! :lol:

8)

 

[gene]

Re: Wow!! Just read all these under "Introductions!&qu

[By the way, grammar, punctuation, spelling, sentence structure, etc.
is all thrown by the way-side when typing on this forum....Sorry.
No grading, please!! :roll: ]

Can't help myself.....A+++

Thanks so much for sharing!

 

[MaxandMe]

WOW Jane.........my eyes kept going :shock:
and homeschooling?!!! i have a friend that homeschooled all 5 of her adopted children. Hats off to you as I could never home school...and i hear most that are have much higher grades !!

you sure are busy! but luckily you have doodle in your life as i really believe a doodle does bring a family closer together. Something about these lovable comical doodles that warms the heart of all that enter their life.

thanks for sharing!!!! and have a great day Jane!

ps. my dad is a workaholic, we give him painting projects, or the little "to do" projects that add up over time :wink:

 

[ellabee]

Jane, I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter....it's something that never leaves you.

I lost a son 3 years ago at the age of 4 - he was my daughter's (now age 7, soon to be 8 ) twin brother. He had a very severe case of pneumonia - got very sick very fast. My daughter had it too, but her case wasn't nearly as bad as her brother's....

Anyway, my sincere condolences to you.... <<hugs>>

 

[annieG]

Jane, thanks for sharing your story...I love hearing what rich and interesting lives the members of this forum have...seems some sadness in all but also much humor.

To both Jane and Ellabee.....hugs and condolences to both of you...it is hard to imagine how painful losing a child is..... OOOOOOOOO (hugs)

 

[Jac]

Wow, how can I just lurk on this beautiful, and personal, post?
Losing a child...is something I can't even begin to comprehend but I do know that it would be the toughest challenge a person would face. Bless you both and all of those who have suffered similar pain.

Jane, your husband could be mine! LOL Sounds like they have exactly the same ... um... abilities! LOL And love-ability!

We're both "oldsters" too, Dave and I are both 56 years old and getting more childish as we get older, I think!

Nice post...thanks for sharing.

And again I agree...welcome to all of the newbys!

 

[cocoandjane]

thank you all for the kind words and condolences..........

though I am forever changed and will never forget my Sarah, my heart hs healed from the intense pain; it's gone....though, always there will be a very tender spot with a tiny persistant aching. I will see her again one day.....I have been assured of our reunion and it will be glorious!

some people never talk about their children that have died, but I have never been able to leave her out of the the story, as she contributed so immensely and in some ways made this family what it is today!

i do wonder how she would have changed the dynamics around here had she lived....she was a bit bossy!! in a fun-natured way.....my boys would have had their hands full!

8)

 

[Jac]

Jane, you have a remarkable attitude...my hat's off to you! (I learn so much from people like you...thanks for sharing.)

 

[ellabee]

<<hugs>> back to Jac.

I agree, Jane. People are hesitant to bring him up to me...they think it'll make me sad all over again...I like to talk about him. Plus, I think some people think they'll be 'reminding me' that he's gone by bringing him up - do they really think for one nanosecond that I've forgotten?

It's a very strange dynamic. People not walking on eggshells trying not to upset, juxtaposed by the one who has gone through the loss ready and willing to share an anectdote. It's tough on both ends.

 

[MaxandMe]

I cannot imagine what it would be like to lose a child. we had a few close calls in the past but god spared them at the time. so i went through more of the "thank you for letting me keep my child" and could not begin to know what either of you went through at the time.

I do want to say though Lynn and Jane it's great you are able to discuss your loss and I appreciate you sharing that with all of us...thank you.
May god continue to bless you and your family with love, memories and all the good things life has to offer.

(((((jane and lynn)))))))))) hugs to you ---i do believe your heart seems to hold more love due to life's experiences.
and i can't believei am sitting here with tears going down my face as your stories really touched my soul.